am i bad for intervening? this person dont actually know what happens inside the house. this person only sees the person whom he encounters outside, whom he has known for what? a
month? and here he is telling me what to do. well, maybe he is right...that i shouldn't intervene, i mean. i wouldn't have, had he and my sister actually didnt cross certain boundaries. if you read this, know that you have been welcome in my house. but still as you know i am here in this country away from my son because i wanted to help our parents in their financial burden (not to mention the fact that honhun is here but that's beside the point). you dont seem to see that. you dont seem to see the urgency in their needs. i know you want to just enjoy life and such but as you pointed out to me before, you are 22 yrs old-an adult. yes,but do you act like one? as an adult, there comes certain responsibilities. and when you do recognize that, when i see that you are one adult who can totally be trusted, and one adult who does not necessarily need certain people to watch over her then i would stop intefering with your affairs. but til then or til you move away from my place whichever comes first, i will still set some ground rules.
Roselle, noting the tone of yr emails I very much doubt any meaning to reply - but briefly suggest to consider that you may in fact under estimate both your sister and myself, and maybe what we can give each other, you really think yr Chebem is impressed with 'money' / 'barhopping'.., as you know well, these things acually mean nothing and certainly I have more fun and give more value to being beaten at a game of Scrabble which costs nothing other than perhaps ones pride.
However I also have a sister who is 10 years younger and I will at any moment fight to protect her rightly or wrongly should I feel it necessary, so ok you have made yr opinion and I will respect that knowing I may have the same reaction. From my experience, forcing what you initially feel is the right for someone whom you care for does not actually change the inevitable and can risk have the wrong effect, meanginful love and care for someone can be offered in a more subtle and beneficial way.
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"meanginful love and care for someone can be offered in a more subtle and beneficial way."
-OK. either this is a verbose composition of a statement or that which "subtly" confuses the reader so as to impress the latter of its proverbial therefore hypocritical, devotional pledge of love- bullshit. meaningful love? com'on, did you not pledge that to your wife? if you did yet did not mean it or if you did not at all, then how cold we really believe everything you say, or whatever motive you have towards chebem. fact of the matter is, which i may add you may not be able to find in the game of scrabble (which did not surprise me at all that you were beaten), it's plain and simple- before you can make whatever bullshit er- promises of love and devotion, you. have. to . fix your mess and be more of a worthy lover/ bf/ partner to chebem. i mean, are you serious man? do you really want to go there? meaningful love? please. spare us your play with words. whoever you are, if you really do have conscience or at least the concept of self respect, if you can't give it to yourself, then please- give it to ching's sister. and to ching, the older sister whom you have no right to make presumptuous mandates to. man, learn how to respect. or do we have to level our definition of respect? all i could say is, what would your sister say if she happens to learn of your doings? would she be able to respect her older brother?
--from a concerned friend
CHING. SEND IT. THEN GIVE HIM MY EMAIL IF YOU MUST.
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