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i just heard from a friend that my son's father has just killed someone.

this actually isn't news to me. i mean, my mother has mentioned something to this effect before but from what my mother told me, they were able to pay it off so there wasn't any problem and the person didnt seem to have died from my recollection. but my friend confirmed that, yes, my son's father had hit a person on bike and killed that person and ran.

and now, he's in hiding. from the victim's family...from the law...from the world.

this actually is such a pity. my son has a very imaginative mind and he seems to think of his father as some saintly being. i dont have the heart to correct him. he thinks that he and his father will soon see each other, probably playing ball games, singing, whatever.

so, how do you tell a child who just recently turned seven and is quite intelligent having reeived honors when he graduated from kindergarten and all that his so-called dad is or might be (to be kind) a criminal?

i dont wanna curtail my son's development into a good person by telling him the truth. it might have a terrible effect on him. i certainly do not want him to hate the person who has helped spawned him. i mean, there was some good in his father when i knew him.

i just regret that my baby's father is so irresponsible. he was so talented. he was intelligent. he was nice. he was charming. he had means, i mean his family did or does, whatever. he was handsome. past tense since it has been many years since i last saw him.

sigh..sometimes, i wish i could have known better. i could have given my son a better father.